Goodbye and say Hello
Most of us had experienced leaving someone or being left behind by someone. We say good bye every time we go. But where is good in good bye?
The first time I had ever felt that was when I graduated Grade school. I felt something that I couldn’t even explain. The feeling of leaving your friends since first grade just sucks. Six years of childish acts, puppy loves, and everything crazy will just vanish in that way. I was scared that time. I really don’t know what is waiting for me out there.
My family moved here in the Kingdom when I was 12, an incoming freshman High School. Coming from a Catholic School in a province, transferring to a lot different school with students who came from different parts of the Philippines is just crazy. But then, as time passes by, I met a lot of friends, Friends whom I have learned to love and treat as a brother and sister.
Four years after, we were standing in our school grounds. You can see everyone with the smile on their face. But as the graduation ends, tears falls down. I can still see myself hugging everyone wishing that night would not end.
After graduation, I went back to the Philippines to study for college. Well, most of my batch mates did the same but others migrated to North America. During college, I met new friends. But four years after, we parted ways and lived our own lives.
Four months ago, I went here in Saudi. Well, as usual, I met friends. But days from now I will be saying good bye again. And I will surely miss everything here. But to be honest, I am scared. I’m afraid to face the reality that I might not see these friends I’ve found.
Now what? Where is the good in good bye?
Life is a continuous process. People come and go. I guess, what’s good in good bye is the fact that we meet new people who would somehow neutralize the sadness and whatever feelings we had when we said good bye. It’s good because we are welcoming new people who would become part of our life. It is really true that good bye is not the end; it is a beginning of something.
Happy Valentine’s Day: How to celebrate as a Single
Valentine’s Day is not just for lovers and couples, it’s for everyone.
I haven’t dated someone for valentine ever since. It’s just that I’m busy or I’m not interested on it. Here’s how I celebrate Valentine’s Day as a single.
Go out with your friends. We always thought that v-day is for couples but it is not. Go out with your friends and have fun with them. But try to ask them first if they have a date or something. It is fun. And while you are out with friends, try to think of a way that would make you happy.
Do not play love songs. It will not make you smile; it will just ruin your day. Instead, play the loudest playlist you have.
Do not watch romantic films. It’s just not the right time to watch those kinds of movies. Watch horror films instead. If you want, you can watch it with someone.
Date your loved ones. Date your parent (mom or dad), your sibling or your best friend. Come on, not everyone has a date during valentine and they are going to love it when you ask them out. Haven’t tried it though, but I am going to try it when I’m not broke.
Go to charity institutions. Give love to those who need love and these people really need it.
Love is Patient. Just go out with your normal life. Someone is meant for each of us, we just have to wait.
Again, Valentine’s is not for lovers, it’s for everyone. It’s about giving love unconditionally.
Building Friendship with our Parents
The reason why I started blogging is for me to express my feelings. To let others, except my family, know what’s going on and what’s happening with my life. The feeling of having online friends giving advices and comments feels good. I appreciate them, of course. But I always ask myself, “what if I never got the chance to go online again? How am I going to express what’s inside of me?” This brought me to realization that, after all, it is still best to talk to your family, especially our Parents.
I know a lot of us are afraid or just not comfortable to talk to our family, especially our not-so-cool parents. Here are some ways I did to persuade my parents to buy me a car, kidding!
Be friends with them. I know this is so difficult but we should. We should be friends with them so they would buy us nice cars and useless stuff. Why friends? A friend listens every time we rant and talk about non sense stuff. After talking and crying like baby, they will laugh at us and we all start laughing. So treat your parents as your friends, and you will find them cool and that’s the time you ask them to buy you a car.
Always Smile. Pretend to be happy even if they won’t buy you a car. Smile as if you understand everything. Whenever you smile, your parents would feel happy. They’d ask why you are smiling and that’s the point where you can tell them what you want and instead of car, ask them to buy you chocolates and chips. Instead of frowning, as if you’re some kind of a loser, Smile and tell them what’s bothering you.
Give them a hint that you wanted to talk to them. How? Well, I always wanted to go back in the Philippines but I can’t, so I gave them a hint. Example – “hey ma, you know what, there are a lot of programmer trainee positions advertised on the internet.” Expect them to respond something like this –“Really? Ok I’ll get you the last flight tonight. “
Do not take my advice. Cross out those things I’ve just listed. Just talk to them in a nice way. I remember my father telling me that he wanted to talk to me as if we are best friends. So I thought that, maybe, they are all the same. They wanted to be friends with us just like how we wanted to be friends with them. Remember that they are still our parents, so we should respect them every time we talk.
Just talk, it won’t hurt anything.
Consider the G words and not the F words
Travis Wright of Cultivate greatness tells us how we should eliminate the use of F words and consider the G words. This is a great read mostly for young people who are starting their careers.
We must know that while FEAR is a good thing sometimes, fear is an attitude that would make us less productive and even lose our self confidence. We fear because we do not believe in ourselves which is not a good thing. I always have this feeling every time I had a job interview. We let fear control us but we should not, instead we control the fear. I realized that , maybe, it is fear that is making me not able to ace an interview or even to the point of not having a job or moving on to the final interview. In this case, we should replace fear with “GREET“. We greet fear and consider it as another challenge that we should face.
Another F word that Travis wants us to eliminate is the word FAIL. Everyone fears fail. I myself doesn’t want to fail. But through these failures we learn a lot of things which will be a lesson for us to improve. It doesn’t mean that you lose or you suck when you fail. We fail because we tried something and we challenged ourselves to face something that we believe we can do. Successful persons also fails, but they use it to improve what they felt was wrong and the reason why they failed. We may have failed so many times but the most important thing is the time when we stand up every time we fall. And every time we fall, we GROW.
How are you? FINE. A lot of people would answer fine or OK when asked something. I remember my father’s colleagues asking me and I would always reply “FINE”. And then when I read Travis entry, I realized that the word fine is not fine at all. We should be more than fine. Instead of saying fine replace it with GREAT.
Now I realized that I should greet grow and be great with everything that I do.
You may read Travis entry on How To Be Successful i Life, Eliminate the F-Words
Panibagong Simula
Ano daw?
Eto na siguro ang magiging panibagong bahay ko sa blogosphere. Medyo magulo ang utak ko at marami akong plano pero ang lahat ng iyon ay plano lang. Plano para sa blog na eto, plano para sa mga lumang blog, at plano para sa bagong blog. Nalilito na ako sa dami at hindi ko na alam kung saan sisimulan.
Etong entry kong ‘to ay hindi update lang. Medyo magfofocus ako sa sa topic na nararanasan ng bawat nilalang, ang life after death pero joke lang yan. Life after graduation at ang quarter life crisis pati narin ang personal development ang magiging topic ko dito. Syempre makakabasa kayo ng mala-magpakailanman at maalala mo kaya entries pero syempre hindi na babasahin ni Mel at ate Charo.
Anyhoo, mabalik ako sa pamagat ng entry ko. Panibagong Simula. Tama ba? Dumarating tayo sa punta ng ating buhay na pakiramdam natin ang dami na nating nagawang mali, mga desisyon na nakapagpabago sa ating buhay. At minsan sa mga pagbabagong eto naiisip natin sana hindi na lang natin ginawa yon. Minsan naman nahihirapan tayong makapagsimula dahil sa mga nangyari. Hindi naman kayo nag-iisa dahil sa ngayon nasa gitna ako ng ganyang karanasan.
Gusto ko makapagsimula, iwan ang nakaraan at tanawin yong bukas. Naisip ko lang kasi na wala namang mangyayari kung babalik-balikan ko yong nakaraan. Malulungkot lang ako at madedepress. Why not look beyond tomorrow at magmove-on.
Move on daw. Madalas ko etong naririnig na payo ng mga kaibigan para sa mga kaibigang bigo. Applicable din ito sa lahat. Sometimes we make mistakes and because of that mistake we fall down and suffer. It’s hard to move on but we must and start something new. Leave the past and believe that everything will be fine.
Panibagong simula. Isang taon ang nakalipas nang umakyat ako ng entamblado at kunin ang diploma. Napakasaya ng experience na yon at hanggang ngayon fresh na fresh pa sa utak ko ang lahat. After thinking of that moment, parang naiiyak ako at nalulungkot. The feeling of being left behind, yong bang mga kasabayan mong nagmarcha malalayo na ang nararating pero ikaw nandoon parin sa lugar kung saan kayo naghiwa-hiwalay. Nakakalungkot pero madalas etong nangyayari.
Sa isang taong nakalipas, marami akong natutunan. Natuto akong maging pasensyoso, isang taon ba naman. Marami rin akong narealize. Narealize ko na walang ibang makakapagdecide para sayo kundi sarili mo lang. Wala na akong mapanghahawakan pang iba bukod dito, pero alam ko kahit paano magagamit ko eto para makapagsimula ng panibagong yugto sa aking buhay.